Why unlearning is harder than learning

Why unlearning is harder than learning

Have you happened to notice that unlearning your habitual behavioural patterns (especially the self-defeating ones) is harder than you anticipated?

 

There is a reason for it. Our inner “wiring” starts early in life. The way we respond in a conflict or a stressful situation, the underlying beliefs run in the back of our minds, the coping mechanisms we develop, and our repeated emotional states – these all create engrained and well established pathways in our bodies.

Additionally, we know from science that our skills, learning patterns, and habitual behavioural responses are not in individual nerve cells or even connections amongst the nerve cells. (more…)

What driving your car can teach you about your wear and tear

What driving your car can teach you about your wear and tear

Imagine driving your car with one foot on the gas pedal and the other foot on the break pedal.

 
Now, imagine that you drive your car like this every single day.

And you drive pretty much all day long.

You fill your car with good gasoline and take it for checkups with your mechanic time to time. After a while, your mechanic tells you that there are some issues with the car, some wear and tear. He offers fixes. (more…)

What is your personality type?

What is your personality type?

Have you been curious about your personality type?

Do you sometimes even wonder if you are perhaps stuck with a certain type of personality?

Have you asked yourself why are you the way you are? Perhaps you have taken numerous personality tests to find out more about yourself because you want to change your patterns of behaviour or improve your relationships. (more…)

Inflammation and our health

Inflammation and our health

Inflammation is considered to be one of the root causes of pretty much every health concern known to us today.

You may likely know that a short-term inflammation is not a bad thing. It may simply be our body’s response to an infection and its aim is self-protection and healing. However, a chronic inflammation is another issue altogether. Research indicates that an overactive immune system ends up damaging our tissues. (more…)

Gut health. Brain health.

Gut health. Brain health.

Your gut health and brain health are related.

 
Have you ever noticed your stomach “in knots”? Or can you recall times when you had a “gut feeling” about something or someone, although you couldn’t find a logical reason behind it? There is a reason why our gut is very sensitive. It is the home to our enteric nervous system.

The enteric nervous system is often referred to as our second brain. (more…)

Can emotions hurt us?

Can emotions hurt us?

What happens when you experience challenging emotions?

 
I am specifically referring to emotions that are typically labeled as “bad” or “negative”. You know, the ones that we are told we should not have in the first place.

I suspect that at least once in your life you experienced a moment when you witnessed a friend or a family member feeling angry about something or someone, and you sincerely advised them: Don’t get upset. Don’t cry. It’s not worth it! Or something along these lines. Or perhaps you were the one given this advice. (more…)